What makes us Tam Brams, who we are! Here are 10 points explaining the concept of Tam Bramisms!
1. Resemblance Factor!
Let us suppose you resemble an annoying relative, be prepared to hear all you life about how you emulate the person’s annoying characteristics. No way is anyone going to even see you for what you are or judge any situation for what it is… And yeah, you do have a lot of control over who you look like, and they totally get it!
2.Education Factor !
If you are Tam bram and if you’re not a part of a recession proof academic background like CA, Law, Engineering, Doctor…… you’re not good enough! Being Brahmana = Being Educated (only the list above).. Else be prepared to be told that you are not good enough returns on investment!
Let us say you hail from a very academic background. Your interests in arts will be scoffed at! For sure that enough and more damage will be made to your self esteem, to the point, you either do what they say (and still be told that you’re not good enough) or you would be discussed as the disgrace to every human existence ever known to the family! Well, this is until the point where you achieve something, and then they’ll just turn around and say, “We always knew you had it in you!” !
3. The Wardrobe Criteria!
Let us suppose you are the kind of kid who likes to dress up, experiment with wardrobe, try to put your own wardrobe together (when most other kids will have their parents choosing their clothes and wardrobe till post teens), be prepared! They have already decided to box you under the “potentially morally unstable” category! You are an attention seeker and should be handled very strictly. Also be prepared to have overbearing parent/s who will not allow you to have a platonic relationship with anyone of the opposite sex. You’re morally unstable- remember?
4. Performer Zone!
Let us suppose as a kid, you liked performing for an audience… Now, here is something you need to keenly observe! If your parents are proud of your talent, be prepared to have a relative run you down ! Common we are Tam Brams afterall! We just cannot handle the spotlight on someone else’s kid! We just have to highlight what’s wrong with that kid to ensure the memory of talent just fades in all that glare!
5. Vitamin M factor!
Let us suppose your parent is not the richest in the room, be prepared to do all the dirty work! From when you are a kid, you will continuously be taught the art of accepting a compromised life! You just have to take it because you have control over your parent’s richness! You would be talked down to, made most fun of (typically meanest of jokes and treatment), you’re never allowed to have a personal choice on anything! Be grateful you get presents.. even if you don’t like them! You’re not suppose to have a mind of your own!
6. Gender Bias! (Oh we Tam Brams ROCK at it!)
If you are a girl, you are expected to be timid. You will be raised to accept compromises and wrongful treatment (not sexual).. because the family is preparing you for marriage! Basically, from when you’re young, you’re told repeatedly that you will be stamped and walked all over, and you have to grin and bear it and live with it!
If you a boy, you will be taught the art of taking everyone around you for granted from when you’re young! You will be taught the fine art of assuming superiority! You need to ensure you should not treat your woman right, after all she is blessed to be destined upon you for a husband in the future!
7. Culinary Skills !
How well you cook is going to be directly proportionate to how happy your husband is going to be with you! Beware, you better not be better than the mother in law, else you just had it!
8. SKIN COLOUR (Hell Yeah!!!!!)
If a boy is towards dark tone, he is considered handsome…. and if a girl is dusky, she is a compromise… She has to accept the saddest man possible only to feel gratitude that he agreed to bestow upon her the role of his wife! Ah. fair girls, please ensure your mothers in law are not darker than you… else you had it!
9. Opinions – Mother of all screwups!
Especially with regards to religion and rituals! If you’re a girl, you just have to bend backwards and do what is being told… You cannot have a mind of your own or an opinion on how things need to be done :) If you’re a guy, you’ve got very little to do… Just make sure you’re “man enough” to boss over/control your wife to follow what your family wants of your wife !
10. Inlaws Factor!
Ladies, this is for you especially! While you’re expected to call them Amma and Appa, you will NEVER be their daughter! They will take it upon themselves to ensure they fault find everything about your upbringing to who you are ….. They will exceptionally fare in their KPI’s!
And boys…..! As always, being married to their daughter entitles you to treat them like dirt and get away with it! That is part of being “The Man”!!! You can continue to be mama’s boys but put down your wife to love her father! You have all rights to criticise her for not getting along with your mother, but you have birthright to treat her father bad!!!